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User Information

User Name:	Melanie
Sex	Female
Age	41 - 50 years
Profession	Manager
Salary	$10,000 - $50,000
Orientation	Heterosexual
Phone
Address	Rock Cottage, Gauteng, South Africa
Country of Birth	Zimbabwe (Republic of)
Country of Residence	South Africa (Republic of)
Religion at Birth	Christian
Practicing Religion	Other
Status at Birth	Middle Class
Status Currently	Middle Class

User's Background Information

I am a spiritualist and hope all people can become spiritualists so no more religious wars/violence erupt. I love to travel and have visited 27 countries and lived in 5 different countries. I love to learn and experience different peoples cultures and traditions and hope to see another 27 countries before I pass on. I wish you all peace on your individual physical and spiritual journeys through life.

Opinions Expressed by User for the following Questions

What is your opinion on God ? religion ?

I am of the opinion that God is a collaboration of good, an eternal intelligence. I am not in favor of religion as it can cause more problems then solve them. I believe some people need religion as they need to follow, they still need to be led, they need structure and organization. They need a story behind their faith (a beginning, middle & end) somebody to talk to. Having only themselves to account for and only having God to talk to on a spiritual level is just too overwhelming for them. Once a being can understand forever and your soul is an eternal matterless energy, I believe this can bring incredible peace. I believe we are here on Earth on a holiday because an average age of 80 is like a 2 hour movie compared to forever & that is why most people do not want to leave. When children die, I believe they could only come for a "long weekend". If we only use 10% of our brain, can you imagine the afterlife being 100 x more wonderful/terrible... forever (without sleep ALL the time)? You would need a rest, hence our life 'holiday'. I do believe that when its your time, that's it, its your time (no getting around it & no blaming God). I believe everyone should be respected and whatever religion brings them comfort they are entitled to their faith. I do not condone fanaticism on any level. Live and let live in peace and love. Think wonderful thoughts and always try to be kind. This has brought me great happiness. I think reincarnation is a choice & if we are lucky enough to come back we should (who wouldn't want an endless list of holidays?) Lastly without bad, good could not exist, hence good and bad exist both here on Earth and in the afterlife.

What is your opinion on love ? sex ? marriage ?

I love, LOVE, it has to be the best feeling ever, it brings such physical and spiritual healing and well being. Sex I can take or leave, I do not think sex is the be all and end all of everything. I do obviously understand its essential for procreation (however I do not have children - I think in my past life I must have 10 kids, hence I decided this time around I'd only have myself to look after. This is not by choice, I am infertile but see the good side of it like everything in life - always look for the silver lining). Sex can be fun but so can "self satisfaction/service" if you will :-) I am by no means frigid but don't miss it if I don't get it. Marriage is not for me, from a young age I did not feel the need to show the world that I loved someone with a ring/certificate. Saying this my ex-husband asked 3 times before I eventually said yes and this was to make him and my Mum happy. It was also before I found out I was infertile so kids were on the cards. The minute we got married, he changed, he wanted to get rid of the old ball and chain theory. I find once some Men/Women get married the next big event is death so they start misbehaving and stop working at the marriage. I like being engaged, we keep each other on our toes. I can understand someone dreaming of their wedding day with the princess dress etc, it was just never one of my dreams.

Are you happy ? Why or why not? How do you think a person can be happy ?

Yes, I'm obnoxiously happy. I choose to be happy. Its a mindset. Smile and the world smiles with you. Laugh out loud as much as you can, it really is the best medicine. I understand that every now and again you need a good cry (its a wonderful stress release for both Men and Women) however, if you have to cry, do not do so out of self pity, do so out of joy. Watch Extreme Home Makeover / Undercover Boss, something that you can cry at because you are so happy for the people who receive such deserving gifts. For people who feel sad all the time, it can only be one of two things:- 1 They bring it on themselves through constant negative thoughts, they think the world owes them a huge favor and love to blame other people or circumstances for everything that goes wrong in their life. Only they can change their way of thinking, it is in their power. I have very little time for these kinds of people. 2. It is a neurological condition called depression and it is a very real and damaging condition not only to them but to their loved ones too. My advise to them is to seek professional help. There is no stigma attached to it, its a proven medical condition, their is no need to feel ashamed or embarrassed over it. Get the help, its worked for millions of people, you are not alone. If you do not do this for yourself, do not be selfish and do it for your loved ones (if you don't love them, they love you). Once you're happy in yourself, you will make those around you happy. Depression is like happiness, they are both infectious.

If you think you are wealthy ? what made you this wealth ? if you are not wealthy, what kept you back ?

I am very middle class. Although saying that, the middle class is becoming smaller and smaller with most people unfortunately being poor and the elite being rich. Weather this is through the luck of the draw/my up brining or a combination of both I am not sure. I thank my blessings that I have a roof over my head, a job to go to, a car to drive, clothes in my wardrobe & food in my fridge. Hard work pays off. Trust your instincts your inner voice, its served me well.

What is your opinion on death ?

I don't think anyone is scared of death, its a given (no getting around it). What I think people are scared of is when and how. If I was to be told that I would die at 2pm tomorrow and be tortured to death, I would not get much sleep at all. I believe it is a transition. No one wants their "holiday" here on earth to end as they are not looking forward to being judged. I believe the worst judge is yourself, however, as long as you learn by your mistakes, this is what counts in your favor.

What do you think is the most efficient way to make money ?

Work smart not necessarily hard, do not put things off to tomorrow what you can do today. Do not partake in social media when you are at work. Take responsibility for a project/customer/workload (don't play the blame game, work as a team to find a solution to a problem). Don't be afraid to make suggestions which help streamline a procedure. If you don't understand something, ask for clarity. If something does not make sense to someone, do not repeat yourself (they are not deaf), try to explain it in another manner. Draw pictures if you must, people understand more clearly when its explained visually. Respect the tea lady the same way you would the CEO. Learn all your coworkers names. Be grateful you have a job, enjoy what you do, if you do not like what you do, change it. Don't be afraid, treat every day as if its your last. Do not let it become your life - no one said on their deathbed, "I wish I'd worked more" (find a good work play balance), knuckle down when its called for but do not risk your health. Kill the customer/coworker with kindness, nobody can stay angry with a kind happy person. Persistence breaks resistance, don't give up, try and try again, you will succeed. Motivate yourself each morning. Respect everybody and never judge a book by its cover. Accept people for who they are. Follow these rules and you're onto a winning recipe in whatever you do.

What is THE MOST important thing to you in your life ? Why ?

My family and friends. They are the love of my life. Without love you have nothing.

If you had to pass on advise to your kids about how to live life, what would that be ?

Be kind to everyone you meet. Give to the less fortunate. Pray everyday and give thanks for everything (list it). God bless God (nobody ever blesses God, they either thank HIM/HER/IT or ask for things but never bless him). Play hard, don't grow up too quickly. Never lose your imagination or sense of fun. Treat every day as if its your last. Laugh a lot. Make people smile. Be respectful to everyone (even if they can be an ass at times - do not lower yourself to their level). Do not curse, it shows a lack of vocabulary.

Is a person in control of his/her destiny ? Why or why not ?

Yes and no (I know that may seem like a copout) but YES, if you believe something strongly enough it will come true example I want to be an astronaut some day. Through hard work and dogged persistence, it will happen. And NO, if for example you have a car accident, you did not will this to happen but everything happens for a reason, perhaps you meet your new best friend/husband/wife at this chance meeting.

Do you think it would be helpful for a person to read what you have said ? Why or why not ?

Yes I would like to think it would be helpful. I learned everything I know from other people, from experiences and self introspection. If someone can take just one new thing from this then I'm glad. Peace be with you all.

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